How Victimizing Yourself Blocks Your Desires
I don’t know what desires you have or why you have them. But I do know one thing for certain:
If you’re victimizing yourself and seeking evidence for why your life is “bad”, you’re pushing those desires farther away.
I can say this from experience. Whenever you engage in self-deprecating talk to yourself, you’re only affirming that you keep on experiencing more and more struggle in your life.
You’re worthy of all your desires
When we break up the word desire, we get “of God”.
The desires that you have exist for a very good reason: for you to experience those desires that were put in you by God, the universe, etc.
If you don’t feel worthy of having something, and as a result, you can’t attract it into your life, do the inner work of figuring out why you don’t feel worthy.
Perhaps something, or a series-of-something, took place in your childhood that has led you to subconsciously (or consciously) believe that you aren’t worthy.
But that’s exactly what those beliefs are: some thing.
In other words, it is not part of who you are as a person.
So if you’re struggling with limiting beliefs about money, for example, know that those beliefs are a collection of things and experiences that occurred in your past. These things and experiences led you to have a certain perception about money.
But since they aren’t part of who you are, you can always change your situation in any moment. But to change them, you have to stop the negative self talk.
Stop the negative self-talk
With consistent practice on being aware of my thoughts, I have gotten better at detecting when negative thoughts are coming up or when I’m about to engage in negative talk.
But it takes practice.
Practice being aware of your thoughts and what comes out of your mouth.
Whatever is coming out of your mouth, whether it’s conscious or not, is shaping your reality. It shapes how you perceive the world and how the world, in turn, is going to treat you.
So if you say things like, “I’ll never find the right partner”, then chances are that you won’t find the right partner. The universe will match you with what you say.
Tips to stop negative self-talk:
- Journal about a specific negative thought or habit that always comes up
- Practice meditation so that you can practice being the observer of those thoughts
Remember, the negative voice is NOT you
I know that it’s hard to believe at first, but it is a fact that those intrusive thoughts are not part of who you are deep down, your inner being.
So who are you deep down?
That’s something I cannot possibly answer for you. You’re the only one that can answer that when you start getting serious about being the observer of your thoughts and habits.
When you become the observer of your thoughts and habits, you’re able to clearly see the line between who you are and what your mind is telling you.
You’ll come to know that there is a far greater power within you that is able to have it’s awareness on these thoughts and habits. By frequently tapping into that inner being, which is not separate from you since it’s who you truly are, you lead a clearer life that is fulfilling to you.
But you won’t have any significant changes unless you start to actively align with that version of you every day. Reading this article isn’t enough.
You have to be your most authentic, inner being by following your intuition, doing things you enjoy, and not surrounding yourself with negativity.
Do things with intentions, and you’ll get closer every day.
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